The chat
It will not answer the question
You pick which one you need. Ride It Out is for the middle of a wave, short replies and no picking the thought apart. Learn & Practice is for the calmer hours, where the useful work happens.
Neither will settle it for you. Ask a second time and the refusal comes back the same way it came the first time, because a freshly worded no is fresh material to analyse.
Ride It Out
It’s loud right now.
You: I just need to be sure it didn’t mean anything. Then I’ll stop.
Maybe: I’m not going to answer that one. Answering is the hook. I’m not going anywhere, though. How loud is it right now, 0 to 10?
Learn & Practice
A steadier moment.
You: Does it still count as checking if I only do it in my head?
Maybe: It counts. Same job, quieter, and harder to notice. Want to put that one on a ladder?